Someone sent me this post and asked my opinion it has inspired me to write up my own but for now here is my edit of 10 tips posted by Country Boy at In the belly of the beast

With one marriage that has pretty much failed you may ask who the hell am I to edit this?

Well dating was my specialty an exact number I do not have but relationships well over a hundred, dates I have no clue but enough.

"Sunday, December 30, 2007
Finding someone special, a guide to the ladies
I saw an article recently that listed 31 ways to find a decent guy. I'm sure that lady that wrote it meant well, but I think 31 suggestions is a bit much. I wrote this as a response to the article and it was very well received. I thought it worth repeating here.

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Finding a guy is fairly easy. They're out there looking for you, just make yourself available.

1. Don't try too hard, that's a little scary. Go to the store in your sweats. That makes you approachable.
This is true to an extent. Not to be a shallow asshole but not many woman can pull off sweats at the store or anywhere for that matter. Save the sweats for work outs or when you land the man. In fact sweats should not be worn by anyone except for working out or around the house it's all around dumpy. Don't confuse trying to hard with not trying at all. A sense of style goes a long way even with the guys who have no style or would not know style if it smacked them in the face. Trying too hard not good, not trying at all disastrous.

2. Forget the makeup. A clean fresh face makes you real. Heavy makeup means you're hiding something.
Same applies as above. Too much make up works for no woman it looks trashy but some woman can really benefit from some mascara, light eye shadow and some concealer.

3. Don't talk about commitments. If he likes you, he'll commit. If he's using you, he won't.
This is true but I believe if you do not talk about it most guys will take advantage of it and use you.

4. Be his friend, but not his best friend. He'll tell his best friend things he'll never tell his wife or lover. That's the way it's supposed to be. Get over it.
I hid nothing from my soon to be X but that is just the person I am and it was the way we were. Now you can say this did not work and in my case it did not but I know plenty of people who are in a relationship and they are best friends too. It make the relationship stronger.

5. Don't expect him to change. Many relationships fail for two simple reasons. (1) She expects him to change, but he doesn't. (2) He expects her to not change, but she does.
Don't expect change but change is possible especially if it is for the better. Just don't base everything on the expectation of change it may never happen you will have to decide on how important it is.

6. If you love him, you won't try to hurt him no matter how much something he did hurts you. If he loves you he won't try to hurt you no matter how much something you did hurts him. If either one of you TRIES to hurt the other, it isn't love and it's time to move on. The same thing applies if either of you does something and doesn't care if it hurts the other or not.
I agree with the last part of it, if one does not care it is over maybe not forever. At least until the one who does not care gets healthy mentally. As far as the first half I do not know too many people who have not hurt the ones they love at one point in time. In most cases you hurt the ones you love the most.

7. Don't expect to understand him. He's male and you're not. You can't understand him. Don't expect him to understand you. You're female and he's not. He can't understand you. Accept that you are different. Learn where those differences are and where the similarities are. This will cut your arguments in half.
This is 100% true.

8. You are going to argue. Don't take it personally and don't make it personal. Before long you'll find that you're discussing and not arguing. You won't remember the change.
Arguing is a big part in a healthy relationship I think. It shows that one is not molding another into themselves it shows they are an individual still. Capable of independent thought if this is not what you are looking for become a Mormon. Give polygamy a shot.

9. Most arguments aren't worth the trouble, but you won't know until you discuss it.
Every argument is worth the trouble it helps you grow as a couple. You get closer to the unobtainable goal of understanding each other completely.

10. If it isn't working out, let it go. Try to save the friendship, but don't feel bad if that's gone too. It's hard to take a relationship backwards. If he handles it well, tell your friends about him. If he handles it badly, be SURE to tell your friends about him.
The length of the relationship is the major factor in this one. This is great in theory but does not truly work for most people if attempted make sure you both are ready for it. If he is a douche about it make sure he is never around anyone you know.
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Story
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/11/us/11child.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=arizona+...

Well who to start on?

The father:
You are a typical piece of American white trash. Just because we are given the right to bare arms does not mean we have to teach a eight year old how to use one. This goes for anyone who is teaching a child that young to handle a weapon no matter their social status. You are all white trash. Why not just give him a hand grenade for playtime just tell him, you never pull the pin you have to respect the grenade. The father from the sounds of it got what he deserved, eight year old kids should not have access to a gun or even know how to use them.

The kid
How does anyone think that this kid is going to ever become a functioning member of society I don't know. Committing your first premeditated murder by the time you are eight does not leave you with a lot of options in life. People will remember and most importantly he will remember things are never going to be the same for this kid.

People are already talking about the fact that he is only eight and does not understand the complexities of murder. Well the first murder is the hardest one to get over that being said wouldn't it not make it easier being eight and not being able to understand the complexities of murder to get over it and commit number two. If at eight you do not know right and wrong about killing people there were problems there anyway. I am not sure on specifics yet but from what I have seen there is no talk of sexual abuse in which case the father deserves to be where he is. For the most part it is probably the only reason. The fact that the parents allow their eight year old to touch a gun is borderline a reason for them to be six feet under.

I say fine give him a trial and give the option for the death penalty. As Americans we kill millions of innocent kids every year sometimes just out of laziness, lack of responsibility or convenience.

It's called abortion.

Wrap up.

1. The gun should have been locked up
2. The ammo should have not been around or in the gun
3. A child that young does not need to hunt for survival he should not have ever held a gun.
4. Where was the idiot of a mother it probably should have been her and not the friend that got shot.
5. Put the kid down like a dog. We put animals down and abort babies what is wrong with the death penalty at any age.

I started Gmail accounts for both my sons when they were born.

Why you may ask.

Well periodically I send them email updates of their life. Just little things like pictures or you went to your first amusement park your mom is a D.B.(kidding about the D.B.) that kind of thing. I know Heather Armstrong posts about her daughter's life on a regular basis but by doing it with email it allows me to include the embarrassing things I would not want them to have to live with being on the Internet.

Now the hard part is picking the account names. I was lucky enough to just get their full names.

Absolutely.

I know that I have talked to people that say not everyone has moments that take there breath away.

Well what I would say to that is, everyone does. Most are looking to hard or in the wrong direction.

Life is full of these moments it could be something as simple as your kid saying something to you to make you smile or getting lucky and winning something. It does not literally take your breath at that moment but if we saw how precious and irreplaceable these moments are it would.

Just thinking about the miracle of life itself should take our breathe away. (Scientifically or religiously).

It is the food, drink, sex, kids, sleep, friendships, love, the breaths we take and everything else that should take our breath away.

Learn to appreciate and your life will be immeasurable.

I subscribe to currently about ten magazines that I can think of. The problem is there is very little time in my day to read them. I used to end up with a pile of unread magazines at the end of the month. I suppose I could have done what my father did and disappear into the bathroom for a half hour to forty five minutes two times a day, the problem there is I have no one to take care of the kids if I was to do so. One major issue I have with the magazines I subscribe to is the amount of ads they place in these damn things. Holy hell how do some of them justify charging.

The ads are just a huge damn distraction.

Anyway to the point.

I take the magazine as soon as it comes in I flip through the magazine not really reading anything just scanning for articles that I want to read.

I then tare them out immediately.
If the article is more than one page I group them and fold them.

After I am done tearing everything out I am left with probably less than a third of the magazine to actually read. I discard recycle the rest of the magazine and then focus the rest of the day on reading the articles.

With no ads left to distract you it's like Tivo for magazines.

This makes it nice and easy you can just grab a page and while you are doing your everyday things read and discard recycle. The other option is to scan and save to something like Evernote and sync it online then read at work, on your mobile or where ever you have Internet access. I finish my magazines the same day they come in now.

Good bye wrap rage.
Amazon just in time for the holidays has removed what I find to be the most annoying thing (other than some relatives) during the holidays, the ridiculous iron clad packaging everything is shipped in. The products come in a simple box no screws, zip ties, tape or plastic contraptions. The items are limited but according to Amazon there is more to come. What the hell is the purpose of the packaging madness, the people stealing this shit get degrees in how to get around all of it, it's the rest of us that suffer. So put away your blow torches, chain saws, razor knives and spend that extra time with the kids.

Just in case you thought you were alone you can check this out.

So start shopping smart eliminate the frustration and the extra trash this season.

Also if you have not gotten Amazon Prime yet I would highly recommend it, by far the best $79.00 I have spent in awhile. When I ordered my Mac Pro I signed up for the trial so I could drop my shipping to just $3.99 (one day shipping) saving me the $50 or $60 more it would have cost me to ship it just regular ground and get it a week later. During the trial I ended up ordering about 6 other things and had them shipped 2nd day for free or the $3.99 for one day. I also in many cases received my 2nd day early. So if your shopping at all on Amazon try Prime for the month for free how can you beat free 2 day shipping.

Yes there is a God.

Well I have managed to lose about six pounds as of this morning.

I am probably up to about a 1000 calories a day as of Sunday so hitting ten pounds as of tomorrow is probably not going to happen. If I am lucky I will hit seven pounds tomorrow and ten by the end of this week. I do feel if that the weather had been better and I was able to walk more I would have been able to hit the ten pounds even with the extra calories.

I will say this 1000 calories is much easier to do, it may take a little longer but it is definitely the way to go. Unless you have an important event and something you have to fit into five or six hundred calories is pretty extreme.

Good luck to everyone losing weight.

What can you do with 40hrs. free time?
Maybe bake some cupcakes, frost, fondant, and arrange them to make a portrait of Obamma?
Well that is what Zilly Rosen from Zilliycakes did.

I did manage to lose one more pound.

I was just not able to post yesterday this laptop thing is killing me.

Not eating regular meals is actually getting a little easier probably because my stomach is shrinking but hey whatever helps at this point.

Having two kids for a minimum of five days a week 24/7 can seriously limit your time you have especially your time online. I had a working laptop up until recently which helped because I was able to bring it to the park to work there while the kids played. Anyway with not having the laptop I have noticed even more how important some of my Firefox extensions are to me.

Here are a few.

1. All-in-one-sidebar makes browsing your bookmarks and history, managing downloads, themes, and extensions a breeze. You can also view web pages or source code which is awesome for me. Here is a full list of features.

2. Evernote Web Clipper for those of you who have not tried Evernote what the hell are you waiting for? The more I use it the more I could not live without it. I was a Google notebook user but they have nothing on this. I clip confirmation numbers, take notes and save full web pages to read later and that barely puts a dent in the possibilities here are some other ideas.

3. Google Gears I am an avid user or Google Reader and Docs and with the kids and horrible WiFi in my area around town it helps to be able to work offline.

4. Down Them All kids or no kids who the hell can't benefit from faster downloads, the speeds are absolutely incredible. They say that it can increase the speed up to 400% it will allow you to download all images or links on a page. You can also pause and restart downloads. This is an absolutely must have 17 million downloads can not be wrong.

5. Google Toolbar Well there is the auto fill for the forms, the send button so you can email or upload to blogger highlighted text or the whole page, my necessity spell check, and much much more.

For those of you still using an inferior product like Internet Explorer the grass is greener on the other side.

Well I weighed in at 176 this morning.

Weight loss 3lbs and I can actually see a difference not sure if it is 3lbs but it is a difference.

It has still been just as hard and to make matters worse it is raining today so I am stuck inside with the kids all day so no walking. The real question I have is if my metabolism is still going or if it it's slowing and I am going to gain all the weight back after this nightmare.

I just want to eat a real damn meal.

On a good note I think I have finally figured out a direction for this site. I call it a site because I want it to be more than just a blog. I am going to try and make this a place for helping people get through life, the good times and the bad. I will have some tips, tricks, throw in some humor, and try to include some reader participation. Like I have said this is all a work in progress so sorry for the inconsistencies.

First off I was unable to post this morning because my laptop started crapping the bed if I actually make a dime from this maybe I can get a new one at some point. For now I can dream about the new Mac book pro.

Anyway yesterday the first day of the 500 calorie hell diet.
Holy shit talk about horrible at certain points I was almost willing to gnaw one of my fingers off for something other than tuna fish to eat. I weighed in at 178 this morning woo hoo one pound. I will say I do not think I really lost anything I would say it was probably from not having anything in me.

I am beginning to question if this is at all worth it. I mean I don't have any important events coming up or anything. So why rush it? I am not really sure. Maybe to prove something to myself or maybe to just cut to the chase. I think I am leaning toward cutting towards the chase.

I can honestly say that I am really missing food nothing is worse than having to prepare three meals a day plus snacks while trying to eat nothing but 3 cans of tuna fish. I cheated just a little I snuck in a couple of pieces of turkey. All and all it was a horrible experience the first day, to top it off I had a strange vision thing last night for a brief period of time which made me a little nervous.

I did manage stay under 600 calories but I sure hope this gets easier as the days go by. I switched it up today by having some salmon with the tuna fish but it really did not help. I know it would not help my metabolism to not eat anything at all but it would definitely be easier than limiting myself to such a low caloric intake.

Well I will post tomorrow morning with my weight. For now I will just try to fall asleep so I don't eat one of my kids and hopefully there will be a noticeable difference to make this worth something.

Well I guess we will have to settle for Obama for now.
Well he has it made, the shoes he has to fill are very very tiny.

Lose weight fast.

Here is my plan to lose some weight fast.

Yes this may not be healthy but I am giving it a shot anyway.
My goal is 10 lbs.
I would like to do it in a week but we shall see.

First let me start off by saying that I have lost somewhere in the neighborhood of 35/40 lbs. in just under 4 months.

I did this with very little effort at all.
I first shed weight due to being asked to leave the house by my wife stress is an amazing thing.
It was not much maybe about 8 lbs but it was enough for me to see a difference and enough to fit into a pair of pants I could not fit into just a week or so before.
This was my motivation to stop being the fat lazy self loathing slob I allowed my self to become.

1: I tried to walk on a daily basis I would walk to the store around the corner or to the park with the kids instead of getting into a car.

2: I stood instead of sit as much as possible, did push ups or sit ups at random when I thought of it (push ups and sit ups never amounted to as much as I would have liked).

3: I hopped or bounced around while doing simple things such as doing the dishes I would make movements over exaggerated while cleaning the house.
Yes I look like an idiot while doing this but a much thinner idiot.

4: I drank nothing besides a ton of water mixed with cayenne pepper and lemon juice (I have now moved on to capsaicin instead of cayenne) also green tea to help my metabolism.

5: I ate all day, small portions no sugars or as little as possible and raw veggies as much as I could stand especially hot peppers.

All of this with positive thinking has brought me down to 179 lbs.

Now I used to weigh 180 on average the difference is that I used to be more muscle I unfortunately do not have the time for the gym and do not have my weights or bench right now.
So I would like to get rid of the extra fat I have right now and worry about the muscle in a few months when I can start some weight training again.

I will continue walking and bouncing around while doing my daily things while adding my new diet to the equation.

My week long diet starting today:
500 calories a day consisting of canned solid white tuna fish with lemon juice.
@ 70 calories a serving it gives me about 7 meals if you want to call them that a day.
I will drink a gallon if not more of water with capsaicin a day and green tea to mix it up.
I am weighing in at 179 lbs. 11/04/2008.

Here goes nothing

I suppose I could tell the story of when I sharted on one of my old girlfriends sheets and then tried sneaking off with the sheets to try and hide it. Needless to say I failed miserably it is kind of hard to rip sheets off a bed then try to roll them up in a ball and shove them under your shirt while in the same tight ass dorm room. Well I guess I really do not know if I got away with it we never really talked about it. I forgot the reason I gave when she asked me where the sheets were.

I could talk about which worthless candidate I will vote for.
Although that would be a lie because I will probably not be voting unless someone does something the slightest bit honest or impressive.

I can discuss the fact that there is a such thing as a human douche bag.
Actually there are a lot these days my favorites Perez and Paris Hilton sometimes I find myself praying that a bus will fall from the sky and put a end to their shit.

I could discuss my recent lack of creativity and memory from the lunesta I took last week while the kids were trying daycare and staying with their mother . Stay away from that shit I try not to take drugs but after a couple of days without sleep it helps. The problem is I suffered from severe short term memory loss and just full blown amnesia. On top of that I swear my hair got thinner and in the process of checking on the memory loss I found tons of people complaining of hair loss or thinning.

Or I can just post this my oldest son. How fast they grow up first 2 years ago and about 20 lbs heavier for me second picture a couple of months ago.




Not a baby anymore.

I really need to start organizing the content before the front page gets out of control but I am just learning Drupal now so please forgive me for now. Jon Lajoie check him out maybe it is just my sense of humor but I think he is pretty damn good.

Stay at Home Dad Rap - Watch more free videos

Here is Dan Hanna's crazy ass project. Talk about time lapse.

Is there really a debate here?

I have to say about 3 years ago I realized the importance of backing up photos as I lost about 2gb of the first two months of my son's life. This was extremely frustrating an I vowed never to let it happen again. I started trying free accounts but with the limited storage and at the rate I was taking pictures because of the ease and cost of digital it was not going to last long. It took me about a year of being unsatisfied with other sites to end up finding Smugmug.

Recently I decided I wanted photo storage for my site separate from my personal account. I have never considered to leave my personal Smugmug power account for anywhere else but for my blog I wanted to host Hd video and with my current financial status with the divorce and everything I figured I had to at least look around. Well looking is where it stopped most have seemed to either stay the same or gotten worse. I will say Flickr has the whole social thing going on but really that is where it ends. I could sit here and give you side by side comparisons but there are a ton of people that have already done that. I will just say this if you want the best this is the best.

It is extremely easy to use, professional looking, and just all around better than the rest. Well I do not have to tell you anymore because you can get a free 14 day trial of any service level without giving any important information and find out for yourself.

I am not trying to be a product pimp but when I love or hate something I will talk about it from time to time.

Needless to say I am getting another Smugmug account and am going to go pro this time.

I always hear how child birth is such a beautiful experience. I have had two kids and have yet to see anything beautiful except for the end result. With my first child I got more than the norm for an experience, I was down in the trenches because they were short on nurses that night. It was hold this move that aim the light here. I never had the option of not looking.

The sight of all of this did not bother me at all, what's a little blood, pee, poo, and fluid anyway.

Well the whole process starts with the gradual demonic possession of the woman. Followed by the release of everything and anything in their bodies. Next we move on to the destruction of the vagina with the stretching and some times tearing of it while the baby is crowning. Followed by the final release of the baby and every other fluid and or solid left in the body.

Now if that picture is not pretty enough I ran across this picture of free birthing.

It looks like she just shit a baby.
Why anyone would give birth over a shitter goes beyond me.
But who the hell in their right mind would put it online?
EEEEWWWIIEEEE!!!!! (yes I said eewie or how ever you spell it)
I made it a link because in no way did I want it on the front page.

Click at your own risk

I give all women who gave birth a lot of credit the thought of going through that is right up there with shitting a knife, but nothing and I mean nothing except for the end even resembles anything slightly pleasant.

I want to say this quickly I am working on this site as fast as possible and will be dividing it into sections but for now everything ends up on this page .

Well for those of you who have someone you hate I found a great site to assist you in getting some peace of mind or just flat out enjoyment maybe. They have some nasty grams that they will send to whom ever you choose anonymously . They also have mini voodoo dolls, nasty Chinese cookies, and shirts. So If there is anyone you want to say fuck you to or ladies maybe there is someone you want to let know how small he really was this is the place.
The spite site

I will start off with this I have worked legally and illegally, full time and part time, at a desk and manual labor. I have done it all or so I thought .

I have now been a stay at home dad (except for the past week) for 3 years and 9 months day in day out. I in the past few months have been a single parent stay at home dad with the kids 24 hrs a day for pretty much the whole month each month. I want to start off by telling the majority of the world to go screw themselves. Stay at home moms have and will never be treated as equals to the rest of the working force. Now stay at home dads forget respect you are looked at a lot of the time as not being able to provide for your family or just flat out lazy we are the lowest of the low.

In my case my wife X-wife even if she wanted to could never be a stay at home mom. There are a lot of people that could not do it and those of us who stay home still respect the ones that can not. I can honestly say it can be the hardest and most stressful job in the world. You are responsible for a 18 year long project. There for a lot of us or at least me are no rain days ,holidays, sick days, personal days, or vacation time. You are a maid, cook, repair main, therapist, teacher, chauffeur, entertainer, and much much more. As a stay at home you give up you life and career as you know it for the better of your children what do we get paid in hugs, kisses and love. Well for those significant others who say it or just think it we are free loading pieces of shit pay up, dads here is your salary info and moms here is your salary info. For the rest of the world if we got paid those are respectable salaries so eat it.

I tried an update and had a hell of a time so I lost and had to reinstall I saved most of the post but was down all day. I re posted and have everything the way it should be this time. Sorry for the mess.

Well on my way to the divorce.
30 who is counting anyway?
Crazy? I did get married.

Well I will just try and make it look good.